Must we apologize?

For some people, apologizing feels like an admission that they are less human. Others believe that being the first to apologize after an argument is an admission of guilt and responsibility for the entirety of a conflict or misunderstanding that involves wrongs on the part of both parties; they think an apology from them will allow the other person take no responsibility for their own part of the conflict. Sometimes an apology seems to call added attention to a mistake that may have gone unnoticed.

However, in the right circumstances, a well delivered, appropriately sincere apology will generally bring about the avoidance of all misunderstandings and will merely serve to usher in a resolution, reaffirm shared values and restore positive feelings. One just have to know when and how to deliver an apology.

If you have caused pain to another person, it's a good idea to apologize sincerely even if whatever you did was unintentional. This is because it opens the doors to communication which allows you to reconnect and also gives room for one to express regret, which let's the other know you really care about their feelings. A sincere apology means willingness to put some actions into it.

An apology may restore trust and misunderstandings. If trust has been broken, see what you can do to rebuild it. Whatever you can do to make it better, do it and if you're not sure what would help, ask the other person what to do to make them feel better. It contributes to a feeling of safety and makes both the giver and receiver feel comfortable and respected.

An apology cannot change what has been done, but it can help ease tension and relieve stress. It gives hope of rebuilding and helps you and your loved ones feel connected. If you value your relationship with others, then a sincere apology can make it go a long way.

Comments

  1. Saleh Fauzi Sinare (Kiki Sinare)13 April 2018 at 04:55

    It's very necessary to apologize but sometimes hmm....

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    1. Hasiah Issah 13 April 2018 at 05:37

      Apologizing doesn't mean admitting that you're guilty

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  2. Kimberly13 April 2018 at 05:20

    Yh that is true apologizes brings down all the tension
    Thanks dear

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  3. CONFIDENCE BOOSTER13 April 2018 at 05:38

    Apologising is a way of resolving conflicts, therefore it is a necessity.

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  4. Sikapa13 April 2018 at 05:43

    Am a victim. I will never admit my fault to apologize, but from your article, have learntsomething, thanks hun

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    1. Hasiah Issah 13 April 2018 at 05:56

      You're welcome. Glad you were able to learn something from it

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  5. Lifexperiences of sincerely naa13 April 2018 at 06:08

    If you can properly communicate, you can easily apologize! Nice piece 👏🏽

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  6. Peekish13 April 2018 at 06:23

    Thanks so much for the info.it's about time some of us learn to apologize sincerely.

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  7. Unknown13 April 2018 at 08:29

    Our inability to apologize is mostly driven by ego.
    This message is good for us all and can help strengthen our relationship.

    Keep the good work going

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  8. FOKA13 April 2018 at 08:47

    Apologising is a necessity, doesn't mean trust must be taken for granted.

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  9. Unknown13 April 2018 at 10:09

    Apologising is cul to do. I for instance, I apologise evn if my partner is guilty. It erodes all sort of hatred nd rebuild trust nd strengthen de luv u guys ve fr each other.

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    1. Hasiah Issah 14 April 2018 at 07:04

      It's good you apologise to your partner though you are not guilty.

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  10. Friendship13 April 2018 at 11:26

    Apologizing solves all things well some of them and brings peace

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  11. Unknown13 April 2018 at 12:04

    Sometimes we need to apologize to grab something but sometimes too it doesn't require to do so

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  12. Unknown13 April 2018 at 16:01

    Very necessary to keep the relationship going

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  13. Unknown14 April 2018 at 03:30

    Well said

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  14. Unknown14 April 2018 at 05:29

    Our inability to apologize is mostly driven by ego.
    This message is good for us all and can help strengthen our relationship.

    Keep the good work going

    ReplyDelete

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